“Be yourself”

Am I the only one tired of hearing this Be yourself thing? 

At first, I took it as a motivation. *Hmm.. I have to be myself all the time. I have to start acting as I am.* Meaning what?! Who the hell invented this quote or whatever it is? We’re 17. We don’t even know what we are going to do with our lives. I don’t even know what I am going to do with my life. We are forced into thinking that the next year (12th grade) is the most important year; the time when we have to decide about our careers, our goals, our life’s purpose. For me, that’s actually scary. I’m terrified and at the same time intimidated by those who know since forever that they are going to Med School, for example. Besides all that, I admire them. I admire their enthusiasm, their motivation and their ambitiousness. But what about the rest of us? Those who are influenceable. Those for whom the opinion of thier parents or friends matters, or the influence of other people who already work in a domain and of course, they have to say something. What the hell are we going to do? Time is passing by and we jump from a univeristy to another, from a thought to another, from a country to another. We are young and confused. Omg, okay, I start being dramatic.

In my opinion, we can’t actually be ourselves because we still have a lot to learn and so much time left to do stupid things, laugh for no reason, fail, disappoint each other, scream, say what we don’t really mean, cry, take the blame, lie, be irresponsible, be a kid. Is the time when we learn, we give shape to a personality. We are moody, incomprehensible, weird. 

I guess a “complete” person, as a personality, character, behaviour and reactions, has about 30 years old. If is a shitty type, then he/she’ll be like that forever. *People don’t change. They reveal who they really are.* 

So stop it with this crap. “Be yourself” BULLSHIT. We are allowed to act whatever we want. 

At this moment, I don’t know where I’ll be in like 10 years, but I promise you’ll cry if we will ever meet. 🙂

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One of my fav quotes: Thanks to every person who has ever told me I can’t. You’re just another reason I will. 

 

2 thoughts on ““Be yourself”

  1. I understand where you are coming from. but we still use the be yourself saying on our blog. To us it means who you are now. If you don’t know yourself fully who cares, that is still you. If you don’t know what or where you will be in ten years who cares, it still you now. Be yourself means don’t BS for anyone, don’t change for a relationship, don’t become just what your parents want you to be. Be quiet, be loud, be daring, be an artist, be a soccer player whatever you are, just be and do you.

  2. Okay, I see what you are saying. I’ve tried to underline the fact that at this age that “yourself” is continuously changing because we don’t actually know the things that mostly define us. Thanks, though, for your involvement into this topic. 🙂
    Please express your ideas/opinions via comments especially if they are the opposites of mine.

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